Dealing with constant rejection

This post is more of a, “getting my feelings out in writing”, kind of post. I have been doing really good for the most part, these past few months, just minor hiccups, but nothing really major and traumatic has happened, thankfully. But something has been on my heart for a while now—–and that is rejection. It seems like at least once a week I am being rejected by someone who I love and/or care about, and I’m not coping well with it. It has brought my self-esteem to an all-time low. I haven’t talked about it or acknowledged it. It has just been an observation I have been making the last 3 years. A lot of my friends have left because they felt, I wasn’t a necessary part of their life anymore. I have dealt with heartbreak after heartbreak, whether it be romantically or non-romantically. My body used to physically hurt because my heart was hurting so much, but now I’m just numb to it all. All I can think about is what is wrong with me? Why am I never good enough for the people I care so much about? Am I not a good person? I thought I was, but maybe I’m not. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have done my dirt, and I am not innocent, but none of us are. But I didn’t think I was that bad of human being for me to lose every single person I care about. Guys, I’m just tired of the constant heartache, which I know comes with life. I’m not harming myself, but I am having a hard time coping with the fact that everyone keeps telling me how they don’t need me in their lives anymore. God, what did I do? I am trying my absolute hardest to push it to the back of my mind and forget about it, but I have been thinking about this for going on 3 years now, and I’m losing someone every week, it feels like. I start getting better, and then someone comes to me with rejection and it hurts so much. It’s starting to become unbearable. Does anyone have any tips or coping mechanisms I can use to get out of this funk and learn to accept the fact rejection is completely normal? If so, please let me know In the comments 🙂 .

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  1. You have to start by learning to be happy alone. It’s okay when people tell you they don’t need you. It doesn’t mean that they have anything against you; people grow apart and they move on. It’s a part of life. However, it does still hurt and you have to find the best way to deal with that. I’ve lost a lot of people in the past few years as well but, I’ve also opened myself up to meeting new people and I couldn’t be happier. Life has a funny way of removing people who you think should be there and replacing them with people who actually should be. The best thing to do is to hold on to the good memories rather than letting the rejection be the only thing you remember about each relationship/friendship. You will meet people that will stick around no matter what and when you do, the ones who left you will be the least of your worries. Hang in there!

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  2. This really hit home with me. I have been following your blog for awhile now. I love to check in and see how the journey is. This post has hit very close to home as I too have had many step out of my life in the last year or so. I didn’t necessarily see why at the time. I feel as if I could pick up the phone and invite them over, but I know that will do me no good. I have taken it Day by day. I have realized their leaving wasn’t anything against me. Everyone is going through something. We are all trying to find ourselves. Sometimes that leads people on paths that intersect only for a small time. Some times the paths intersect to only fall apart for awhile and intersect again. It’s in these low times that (as mentioned by the last comment) we take it in to find ourselves even more. It’s a tough time frame for life, as I too am in college and trying to figure out life. But we have to remember that we are not finished. We have a journey ahead of us and what we incounter today or tomorrow is not our final destiny. We have a lifetime ahead of us. Hope this helps! Keep your head up and go day by day. Dig deeper into who you are yourself. And don’t forget to laugh once in awhile, it never hurts. ☺️

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  3. Thank you so much for writing this post. My mental health has been better than ever for the most part but sometimes I struggle like right now. I am struggling with the same thng as you right now. Rejection and getting my feelings hurt. I know I am super sensitive, but… I had many friends before my diagnosis but through the years I have lost so many. It is hard becasue I don’t want to get hurt anymore so if rejection occurs or I sense rejection is coming I feel like I must shut myself down and protect myself… tellling myself I don’t care because i can’t. But the problem is I care tooooo much. As I am thinking it through for myself, I feel like maybe I am overly sensitive sometimes (often) and I must remind myself that people have their own problems and it might not just be me. I am sorry but I don’t have any suggestions for you right now, but as soon as I make it through this rough patch I will let you know and I know you will make it through as well. Please let me know how you made it through when you do. Thanks for sharing your words with us and I appreciate your honesty. Much love and hugs, Sue

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I am so sorry youre going through this and i wish you the best. I will also try and find ways to cope with this and let you know as well. Sending positive thoughts your way.

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